The only thing a person should be judged on is their actions. If they are good people or bad people. I’m not a bad person because I speak a different language at home, or because my skin doesn’t look like yours, or because I’m heavier or lighter or because I’m not as smart or wealthy as you or because of my sexuality or because I choose to stand up for my family. Those are not the issues. The issue that we all should be judged on is if “We’re doing the right thing.” All those other things are distractions that are invoked by people to hide the fact that they are a horrible human being. So when someone references something about you that has nothing to do with actions that you have taken. You need to find out what they just did because obviously they just shit the bed and  are trying to hide it.